My inner voice whispered “You are not showing off, you are showing up” and it stopped me in my tracks. I had been giving myself a hard time for doing my ‘usual’ in an online workshop. So I usually volunteer my thoughts/ask questions/go first etc but sometimes, I worry that I am taking someone else’s space to share their view or that the other participants are going to think I am a show-off or know-it-all. I am Hermione Granger.
I can be found listening to my inner critic - “Don’t be too clever, too happy, too curious. Don’t show off, you will make people feel bad.” But that just isn’t true. As a 42-year-old who now knows that I am not responsible for how other people feel, it’s time to shed the idea that showing up is showing off.
Showing Up Isn't Showing Off
Showing up is not about showing off. It's about showing up for yourself. Showing up is not about boasting, seeking validation, or self-promotion. It’s not about being right or perfect. It's about being fully present and engaged in the moment, genuinely connecting with others, and contributing your unique perspective and energy. Authentic presence is rooted in a deep understanding of oneself and a genuine desire to connect with others on a meaningful level. It's an expression of vulnerability, openness, and empathy, rather than a display of ego.
Why showing up is important
Here are a few reasons why showing up is so important:
A declaration of commitment
When you show up, you're making a commitment to yourself, your work, your friends and family and your goals. You're saying that you're willing to put in the effort, even when it's hard. Sure there will be blocks and barriers along the way, some in your control and others out of your control. It’s OK to make a re-commitment to yourself/others at any point in the process.
Making a positive impact
Authentic presence allows us to make a positive impact on the lives of others. By being fully present, we can offer our support, guidance, and encouragement when needed. Our presence alone can provide comfort and reassurance to those who may be going through challenging times.
By showing up consistently with compassion, empathy, and a willingness to help, we become a catalyst for positive change, fostering a sense of belonging and empowerment.
It helps you to learn and grow
Showing up is not solely about being physically present; it's about listening, learning and taking meaningful action. When we genuinely engage with others, we expand our perspectives and knowledge.
Through actively listening, asking thoughtful questions, and seeking to understand, we enrich our own understanding of the world and develop a more profound sense of empathy. Through active participation, we foster a culture of learning and growth, individually and collectively.
Inspiring and empowering others
When you show up, you inspire others to do the same. You show them that it's possible to achieve their goals, no matter what challenges they face. Authentic presence has the power to inspire and empower those around us. When we show up with our full selves, flaws and all, we give permission for others to do the same.
By sharing our stories, experiences, and challenges, we create a supportive environment that encourages others to embrace their own authenticity. Our presence can ignite a spark in others, reminding them of their innate worth and potential. It's an invitation to embrace vulnerability, take risks, and grow personally and professionally.
Creating a space for trust and authenticity
When we show up wholly, we create an environment of trust and authenticity. By participating, listening, and engaging in conversations, we demonstrate our respect and value for others' perspectives. Whether it's a personal or professional setting, a genuine presence fosters trust, strengthens relationships, and builds a sense of community. It allows us to forge deeper connections and create spaces where everyone feels heard, seen, and valued.
Showing up is a powerful act of authenticity
Showing up is not about seeking attention or showing off. It is a powerful act of authenticity, empathy, and engagement. When we show up genuinely and fully present, we create an environment of trust, inspire others to embrace their own authenticity, and foster meaningful connections. Through our presence and active participation, we can make a positive impact and create a better world. I leave you with this thought: What if the key to success isn't about showing off? What if it's about simply showing up?
