In our final foray into the drama triangle we looking at the Persecutor. You know, I sometimes say to my friends, when it comes to kids/coaching (similar skillset!) I occasionally have to play the bad guy. By which I mean I have to make the difficult decision or challenge someone’s behaviour. But playing the bad … Read more
I shared last week about being a recovering Rescuer and it resonated with many of you. So much so, I thought I’d do a little mini-series on the roles in Karpman Drama Triangle…this week is playing the Victim. What is the victim role? When people choose to play the Victim, they get to have their … Read more
I have been a Rescuer my whole life, as long as I can remember. I’ve needed to protect, nurture and save others. It all sounds very kind and loving, doesn’t it? But there’s a darker side to being a Rescuer…like offering unsolicited advice; doing things for others (thereby not allowing them to do it for … Read more
Do you wish you had done a different degree subject? Or maybe you blame yourself (or someone else) for the degree classification you got? Perhaps you still feel frustrated as you have no idea what you want? Maybe you’re staying in a job you hate because you feel you have not choice? Whatever career choices you … Read more
Acceptance is a choice. It’s not always an easy choice but it is something we are required to choose nonetheless. Why? Because when we are faced with a challenge there are two ways out – the first is to accept it and find a way to make peace with it. The second, to fight against … Read more