This week, my coach gave me a simple task: track how I spend my time. What I found was confronting.Every moment of my day was accounted for. There was no slack, no contingency, no pause. And when I did stop, it was because I’d run out of energy, not because I’d consciously chosen to rest. … Read more
Life trains us early to protect ourselves. From childhood, we develop strategies—masks, habits, and roles—that help us navigate the world. Over time, these protective layers can feel like the sum total of who we are. People-pleasing, overworking, avoidance, and perfectionism are all forms of armour, designed to keep us safe and acceptable. And yet, beneath … Read more
The first two lines of my SHINE script read: I am the Queen of Self-Mastery. I am grounded in my power. When I came back to those words recently, I had one of those moments that made me pause. I had forgotten I’d updated my script with that second line. Then, just a few days … Read more
We all have a default behaviour – the way we react when we’re tired, stressed, or triggered. Sometimes that default behaviour looks like people-pleasing, perfectionism, or shutting down. Other times it’s scrolling on our phone, avoiding a hard conversation, or overworking. These protective strategies may have once kept us safe, but when we live on … Read more
We rarely talk about the middle. The beginning gets celebrated — the bold decision, the fresh start.The end gets praised — the breakthrough, the glow-up, the polished version. But the middle? That place where you’re not who you were… but not yet who you’re becoming.Where everything feels unclear, unsteady, and in-between.Where the old strategies no … Read more